For many of us resentment feels like an old and familiar companion. It’s that slow burn that builds when our needs go unmet or unspoken. And yet, what if resentment isn’t the problem? What if it’s the messenger?
In this clip from the HERself podcast, I talk about resentment as one of the most valuable entry points for self-awareness. When you feel that spark of irritation, before it snowballs into a story about what someone should have done, that’s your invitation to pause. To ask: What am I not communicating? What am I avoiding? What truth am I not honoring?
Resentment, from a depth lens, is the psyche’s protest against self-abandonment. It’s what rises when we silence a part of ourselves to keep the peace. And while it’s easy to get righteous or spiral into blame, the work is to turn inward instead of outward. Because resentment, as uncomfortable as it is, always points back to our own lack of ownership.
When you can meet resentment as information rather than indictment, something shifts. You move from “they’re doing this to me” to “I have a choice here.” You begin the slow process of reclaiming your voice, and with it, your sovereignty.
If this sparks something in you, I’d love to see you inside the Inner Compass Collective, my private community where I host weekly Codependency Recovery Groups and live discussions on patterns like resentment, boundaries, and relational self-trust.
