We often think of codependency and hyper-independence as opposites: one clings, the other withdraws. But beneath both patterns is the same tender question: Am I enough as I am?
In this clip from The Sabrina Zohar Show, we explore how different survival strategies (fixing, managing, caretaking, isolating, controlling) are all ways we try to feel safe in relationships when we don’t feel fundamentally worthy or loved.
Sometimes we over-function. Sometimes we shut down. Sometimes we need to be needed. Sometimes we convince ourselves we don’t need anyone at all.
These aren’t personality traits. They’re protective parts, born from old stories about what makes us lovable, valuable, or safe.
But healing doesn’t come from perfecting the strategy. It comes from noticing when these parts take over and gently reconnecting with the deeper truth: You were never too much. You were never not enough.
So, when do you notice yourself slipping into over-functioning, fixing, or proving your worth? If you want to explore more deeply, consider becoming a paid subscriber to join my live Q&A sessions. Each month, we gather to unpack these patterns in real time, share reflections, and connect with others doing this work alongside you.
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