Let’s talk about something that rarely makes it into conversations around parenting, intimacy, and personal fulfillment: What happens when the daily realities of motherhood push us so deep into our masculine that we forget how to soften?
In this clip from the Chatty Broads Podcast, we explore a dynamic many women feel but don’t always have language for: how the logistical, nonstop, checklist-driven nature of modern mothering subtly shifts us out of our receptive, creative, embodied energy, and into something more rigid, performative, and exhausted.
Because while motherhood is often romanticized as the ultimate expression of feminine energy, the truth is…raising small children is an energetically masculine experience.
It’s structure.
It’s strategy.
It’s getting everyone out the door.
It’s making lists, packing lunches, managing calendars, and remembering a thousand invisible tasks a day.
And if you’re also working outside the home? The load multiplies.
Add in the cultural pressure to “do it all” and look good while doing it, and you’ve got a recipe for burnout, disconnection, and a slow, subtle erosion of sensuality, creativity, and connection to Self.
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In the video, we break down how this constant masculine energy can ripple into our partnerships, especially when we’re unconsciously holding all the power and responsibility. The polarity flips. You’re in the driver’s seat, managing everything. Your partner may step back, or you may unknowingly push them into the backseat. And then, suddenly, intimacy starts to dry up. You feel resentful. They feel disempowered. And no one knows quite how to name what’s shifted.
But here’s the thing: this isn’t about blame. It’s about awareness.
When we recognize that we're stuck in overdrive, not because we failed, but because we were never taught another way, we open the door to something new. Something softer. Something truer.
We also name something many women are only beginning to speak aloud: that feminism gave us power, yes, but it also gave us a new kind of pressure. In order to be seen as strong, we were taught to lead like men. Perform like men. Produce like men. And somehow… also stay soft, sensual, maternal, and emotionally available.
It’s an impossible equation. And it’s okay to say so.
So how do we begin to return to ourselves?
It starts with noticing where we’re gripping. Where we’re controlling everything because we don’t trust it will get done if we don’t. Where we’re afraid to let go because we haven’t yet practiced receiving. Where we’re holding the masculine so tightly that our own feminine essence, whatever that looks like for each of us, has no space to breathe.
The work isn’t to reject your masculine. It’s to rebalance it.
To soften control.
To ask for help.
To let others rise.
And perhaps most radically: to believe that your worth isn’t measured by how much you hold, fix, or manage. But by how deeply you allow yourself to be… you.
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